Former No. 1 Adult Film Star Lisa Ann has been putting the “fantasy” in SiriusXM’s Fantasy Sports Radio every Monday night at 10 pm ET for awhile now, but she also knows a thing or two about real life. Each week, she’ll be answering your burning questions about sex, relationships and her personal life. This time around, she’s tackling: The difference between Facebook friends vs. real friends, managing her Psoriasis, and the after effects of a career in the adult film industry.
Dear Lisa Ann,
Almost two years ago a girl that I work with got divorced. Over the next few months we went out a couple times, and started to become really good friends. By March, we were sleeping together and taking trips with each other. We did all of this without anyone at work knowing it, besides her best friend, who HATED it. This lasted until about six months ago. I knew that I was kind of a rebound thing, and she told me from the jump that she didn’t want to get involved in anything serious, because she had not had the opportunity to ever really date around. Over the year and three months that we were seeing each other, she became my best friend. And I feel like I legitimately love this girl. I’ve never felt this way about someone. But we stopped seeing each other (amicably, but to my dismay) because she needed to get this dating thing out of her system. Now she has moved on and has been dating someone for 5 months now, and it eats me alive. I can’t even stand to look at her, and it is to the point that I don’t even want to work there anymore. I want her more than anything, and she knows how I feel. We are friends, but I am at a point where I just have to completely remove myself from her, because it bothers me that much. What do I do? I’m kind of embarrassed at myself that I can’t get over her after 6 months, but I don’t know what to do. I have been on dates with other girls, but I can’t stop thinking about her. I would love any advice from you.
And I love all of the mediums you are on. I used to be a caller on your radio show that was on Spice. Congrats on all of your success. 🙂
— Can’t Get Over Her
Dear Can’t Get Over Her,
I can feel your pain and heartache with your email, so first, I would like to say I’m sorry. I am sorry to read that your heart feels broken. May I suggest you change the way you look at this? You can start by being happy that you met someone you have feelings for and now have a blueprint for what you are looking for in the future. In the meantime you can still love her, but you have to love her like a friend. It isn’t the easiest transition to make, but I have faith in you that you can do it. Have patience and be a loving friend. There are no guarantees with the new relationship she’s in and it’s really important she has her time to find herself after a divorce. Keep in mind, she was clear about that when you two started dating. There’s also no need for you to even consider not working with her anymore because that just creates more stress for you. There’s no need to walk away from anything; you just have to redirect your focus. I’m sure she still wants to be your friend and would like to have a good working relationship with you at the office, so just rearrange your thoughts and feelings like you would rearrange the furniture in your living room. Everything will find its place in time. Stay positive always, be true to yourself and show gratitude for your friendship with her, you will feel better and welcome new levels of happiness and love into your life.
P.S. Thank you for your support over the years, it’s people like yourself that have made my transition into my new life possible.
— Lisa Ann
Dear Lisa Ann,
What is your greatest accomplishment in life?
— Just Wondering
Dear Just Wondering,
My greatest accomplishment in my life so far has been writing my book, The Life. I have my own online store where I sell my book and each order that comes in excites me and makes me smile with an overwhelming sense of pride. I enjoyed the entire process of learning how a book is put together. The writing and telling of my story was like putting the exclamation point on my previous career and life. I learned a lot about myself while I was looking back through my life. The one thing that has carried over to my new life and has stayed with me since I wrote The Life, is my love for writing. The Life was a story about my past, but it indirectly inspired my future.
— Lisa Ann
Dear Lisa Ann,
What were your favorite board games as a kid? Mine were Risk and Chess. Thanks for reading!
— Mr. Monopoly
Dear Mr. Monopoly,
I can see by your favorite board games you were way more competitive than I was as a kid. I was a silly kid and I loved Uno! I used to make my family play it all the time. My most memorable Uno experiences was when I played Uno with my brother and I would peak at his cards when he took a break, until one day, I decided to take my Uno cards with me when I walked away from the table. It was at that moment he realized I looked at his cards when he walked away. From that point on we had to have someone monitor our cards and be sure no one was cheating. Believe it or not, I still love to play board games. My friends and I play a lot of Trivial Pursuit and Scrabble. Old school board games around a table are such a simple way to connect with friends and have some good old-fashioned fun.
— Lisa Ann