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V-Day is this Friday, folks. And that means you have NO excuse to spend it on the couch, unless you’re canoodling with someone, of course. For those of you who are single, though, you shouldn’t write yourself–or your relationship status–off as “Lonely Hearts Club Treasurer.” Dr. Jenn Berman has compiled a list of not only 100 places to potentially meet fellow singles, but 100 places to go, activities to try, and bucket list-toppers to tackle. So don’t think of this Valentine’s Day (or any day for that matter) as your own personal day of isolation. And don’t go out looking for a life partner because your mom or the magazine covers at the grocery store keep telling you that you have to, go out and do something fun for yourself – doctor’s orders! Because that is how you’re going to run into other singles with the same interests and passions as you! So read on for Dr. Jenn’s 100 places for singles to meet people.
1. Take a class that interests you. Extension classes or places like the Learning Annex are great places to meet people with similar interests.
2. Take a wine tasting class. It is a great way to impress your friends at the dinner table or your next date, and you just might meet someone interesting in the process.
3. Go to a dog park. Men and women who have dogs make particularly good partners, providing you like dogs. They have the ability to care for another being, a sense of responsibility, and are able to form emotional attachments.
4. Go to a 12-step meeting. If you have a problem with drugs or alcohol you need the help, anyway. It’s also a great way to meet people who are willing to work on themselves. If you are the child of an alcoholic, check out Adult Children or if you need help dealing with a relative or friend with a problem, Al-anon is a great place to go.
5. Religious singles should try their local place of worship. Attending services is a great way to meet people. Also, many religious organizations offer events and classes specifically geared towards singles.
6. Get out and go to restaurants. Try new places or restaurants that cater to singles or have music at night, which tends to attract a more social crowd. Sites like Zagat can help you search based on location, cuisine, nightlife, etc.
7. Online dating is a great way to meet people. You can learn a lot about a person based on their online profile. Anyone who fills out a profile shows that he or she is motivated to meet people, is literate, and has a certain level of organizational skill. Just make sure that when you meet online dates for the first time, you do it in a public place, and take all reasonable safety precautions until you know that person really well.
8. Speed dating, which is like musical chairs with human chemistry, is a time effective way to meet a future partner. At a speed dating event, all men and women are given a numbered badge. The women are usually seated at individual tables, and the men will rotate around the room meeting each of the women. A bell will ring signaling the beginning of the date, and each couple then spends four to eight minutes (depending on the host’s rules) interviewing each other before the bell rings and the men move on to sit across from the next woman. At the end of the evening, if there are any mutual love connections, the host then lets the “couples” know.
9. Ask everyone you know to set you up on a blind date. Blind dates are a great way to meet people because the person who is setting you up knows both of you and is hopefully basing their decision on more than the fact that you are both single. If someone knows both your personalities they just might help you find your soul mate.
10. Bookstores are a great place to meet literate singles. Most bookstores have seating areas and some even have coffee bars.
11. Singles groups that are organized around seemingly every type of interest and age group are a great way to meet potential mates with similar interests.
12. Hit the gym. You can meet health conscious people and, even if you don’t meet someone, you are still doing something healthy that will extend your life and keep you fit.
13. Physical activity is a good way to meet people. Start rock-climbing, surfing, skiing, playing tennis or golf. You never know who you will meet while being active and healthy.
14. Go to sporting events. Football games, baseball games, tennis matches, golf tournaments, hockey games, extreme sports championships, and any other type of sporting event can be a great way to meet someone.
15. If you are looking for a woman, go where the women are: nail salons, spas, and hair salons are great places to meet well-groomed women and become a well-groomed man.
16. Going to a retreat can help you find someone with similar interests. Spending time away from home learning a new skill like meditation, yoga, or even self-exploration can be good for you, anyway.
17. Take a cooking class. You can master the art of the culinary seduction and meet someone at the same time.
18. Go to a convention. Most convention centers offer calendars of scheduled events.
19. Check your local paper for listings of upcoming special events. The Los Angeles Times Calendar section, for example, has a great event section.
20. Matchmakers are back again. Thanks to people like Patti Stanger, matchmakers have had a resurgence. There are individual matchmakers as well as companies that set people up. There is even a company that only sets people up on lunch dates.
21. Take a magazine, book, or the weekend paper and go read at an outdoor restaurant like Jamba Juice, Noah’s Bagels, Starbucks , or Coffee Bean.
22. Happy hour isn’t just for drinking. Many restaurants and bars offer a special happy hour menu. People tend to be a little more social and open to meeting people after work.
23. You can always find sports-loving men at a sports bar when there is a big game playing. Often the bars will offer free drinks to women on those nights.
24. Volunteer! Studies show that people who volunteer have fewer incidents of depression and higher self esteem. Volunteering is a great way to feel like you serve a purpose in the world and a great way to meet people. Check out an organization like Volunteer Match to help you find an organization you will be excited to help.
25. Take sports lessons. Learning a new sport can help your fitness level and you never know who you will meet in your class.
26. Go shopping. Pick stores based on the kind of person you are looking for, and spend some time browsing. Ask fellow shoppers to help find a gift for your “relative.”
27. Go to a magazine stand. Hang out and read while looking for interesting people with whom to start conversations.
28. Go hang out at a coffee house. The more social the hangout, the better.
29. Go car shopping. Not in the market for a new car yet? Have fun browsing and talk to other customers. Each one is a potential date.
30. One isn’t such a lonely number. It is an approachable number. Go out to eat by yourself. It makes you easier to talk to. Bring a book or magazine if you are worried about being bored.
31. Go to a concert or a play. If you have the same taste in music or theater, who knows what else you have in common?
32. Start a blog. It is a great way to be creative and be part of an online community.
33. Go to the public library. Cruise the shelves for smart singles. Make sure to check out specific libraries like college libraries and medical libraries.
34. Start a company newsletter. This gives people from other departments a reason to talk to you. It could be good for your career too.
35. Circulate a sports pool. It’s a great excuse to talk to people at work who you might never speak to. Ask friends if they know anyone who might like to join.
36. Host a co-ed (or single sex if you are gay) poker game.
37. Throw a singles party. Tell each friend you invite they have to bring two single friends.
38. Take a singles trip. Check with a travel agent or do some online research to find cruises or trips just for singles.
39. Take dance lessons. You can learn to dance at a dance studio or, better yet, try a club that offers classes. If you arrive without a partner, the instructor will pair you up.
40. Learn the art of public speaking. You can boost your career skills and meet interesting people at the same time. Public speaking organizations such as Toastmasters are free.
41. Attend a trade show for fun. You will get lots of free goodies and maybe a date.
42. Start an investment club. You can become financially savvy, make some money, and meet new people.
43. Try a cuddle party. Cuddle Parties are affectionate play events for adults, designed to provide a space to explore and enjoy touch, nurturing and communication.
44. Hang out at the pool. Find a friend that lives in an apartment or condominium that has a pool where people hang out on the weekends.
45. Go spend a day at the beach.
46. Learn how to surf.
47. Organize a neighborhood watch. It is a great way to meet your neighbors, make your neighborhood safer, and meet a potential date.
48. Train for a marathon. Groups like the LA Leggers and the LA Roadrunners teach people how to train for the event, organize group runs and have guest speakers. Most cities have their own training groups.
49. Ride a bike. Check out the bike paths in your neighborhood.
50. Do your grocery shopping after work or on weekends. You stand a better chance of meeting employed singles.
51. Join a car club like the Sports Car Club of America, BMW, Muscle Car Club, or Aston Martin. You don’t have to own a car to be a member of most car clubs. You can go to the events and even learn driving skills.
52. Attend a car show. Shows like the LA Auto Show are a fun way to see next year’s cars, get fun accessories, and meet people. Take the weekend off and go see the Concours d’Elegance.
53. Take a vacation. Save up and splurge on a high-end vacation or go on a social vacation to a place like Club Med.
54. Go to a museum. Museums aren’t just about art. There are car museums, wax museums, science museums, and even tar pit museums.
55. Try going to a performance driving school like BMW Driving School, Evolution, Fast Track Driving School, or any number of others available in your area.
56. Attend an air show.
57. Learn to sky dive from a certified instructor.
58. Learn to play an instrument.
59. Get a membership in a private social group or club.
60. Learn a language. Try a group class at a place like Berlitz. You could be learning the language of love!
61. Take an art class. Painting, ceramics, watercolors, drawing, sculpting can all be great ways to explore your creativity and meet other creative people.
62. Go to a home improvement store. You can improve your home and your love life all at once.
63. Get on the board of a charity. It is a great way to give back to the community and meet generous people.
64. Feed the homeless. Many homeless shelters have programs that allow people to come in and work in the soup kitchen. It is a great way to donate your time and meet other kind souls.
65. Get politically involved. Get involved with your political party or volunteer to work for a candidate who is running for office.
66. Join a demonstration. Follow your beliefs. March for or against something.
67. Go bowling or join a league.
68. Go for a walk in a different neighborhood or visit a jogging track.
69. Learn how to sail. Take a lesson or join a club.
70. Learn how to fly a plane.
71. Get certified in scuba. Most scuba schools offer snorkeling classes, instructor training, and can even hook you up with scuba travel destinations.
72. Get involved with the Sierra Club. The Sierra Club’s has more than 750,000 members. Inspired by nature, the Sierra Club members work to protect our communities and the planet. The Club is America’s oldest, largest and most influential grassroots environmental organization.
73. Take an architectural tour of your city. The L.A. Conservancy conducts a dozen information-packed walking tours of historic Downtown L.A., seed of today’s sprawling metropolis. Check out tours in your neighborhood.
74. Go furniture shopping. Ask someone cute for advice.
75. If you are a single parent, check out Parents Without Partners. PWP helps parents struggling to raise children alone, contending with the emotional conflicts of divorce, separation, widowhood or having children out of wedlock. PWP Inc. is the only international organization that provides real help by means of discussions, professional speakers, study groups, publications and social activities for families and individuals.
76. If you have children, take a parenting class for singles. It will make you a better parent and you never know who you might meet.
77. Go visit an internet café.
78. Spend a day at the hospital. Find out about volunteering, eat in the cafeteria, and shop in the gift shop.
79. Take your friend’s dating leftovers. Make a pact to set each other up with up with eligible dates that don’t work out for each of you. One person’s trash is another person’s treasure.
80. Have a “Dating Leftovers” party, like Charlotte did in Sex & the City. Ask each invitee to bring someone of the opposite sex (same sex if you are gay) who they are not interested in dating themselves.
81. Host a holiday dinner. Lots of transplanted singles have nowhere to go during the holidays. Be inclusive and invite friends to bring friends. The more the merrier!
82. Get a tattoo. If you are into tattoos you just may meet another like-minded tattoo lover. Just make sure the tattoo parlor follows all health and safety precautions before you let them work on you. If you hit it off with someone you meet there, do not get a tattoo of your new friend’s name!
83. Go to your class reunion. Everything old is new again!
84. Take your dog to obedience class. You end up with a better behaved puppy and can meet other dog lovers.
85. Write or answer a personal ad. Make sure to meet in a public place to be safe.
86. Get a second job. You can meet new people and make some dough.
87. Learn to tend bar. Making a good mixed drink can be sexy. You can meet people in the classes or after you finish, working as a bartender.
88. Take pictures. Spend a day taking pictures around town. If you take a great picture of someone, get their info so you can send it to them later. You can also meet people in a photography class.
89. Bake cookies for a new neighbor to welcome him or her to the neighborhood.
90. Go for high tea if you are looking for women. Take your grandmother, mom or sister as your wingman.
91. Take martial arts or a self defense class. You will increase you own sense of safety, get stronger, and you might meet interesting people.
92. Instead of washing your car at home, go to a car wash.
93. If you have kids, take them to an amusement park. It is great place to meet other parents, hopefully lots of single parents.
94. Teach a class about something in which you are an expert.
95. Visit a friend at work. Have your friend introduce you to his or her office friends.
96. Eat in a cafeteria. People tend to be more social in a cafeteria setting. Choose the one at your own work or meet up with a friend or colleague at his or her workplace cafeteria.
97. Go to a wedding alone. Parties that celebrate important milestones like: a Bar or Bat Mitvah, a christening, a graduation parties, a Bris, a baby naming, or a Sweet 16 are all great places to meet people.
98. Reach out to people via social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, and other sites.
99. Go to a house party.
100. Host a party. Throw a theme party, an Academy Awards party, a Halloween party, a TV Show party or just a party party!